A J Update

Any of my long time blog followers know I have a younger sister, J. She has lived with me off and on in the past. We've had some major blow ups and issues do to her immaturity, sense of entitlement and other personality problems. She has really tried to avoid growing up and taking responsibilty for herself. Her goal has really been to find a husband to take care of her.

She has been through her share of interesting men. A few years ago she met a pro athlete in a large town's nightclub. Since getting an 'in' she has dated several pro athletes. A basketball player from Texas; a football player from Minnesota; another football player from Pittsburgh; and now another football player (see a trend) from our state. This guy is actually the second guy from our state's team that she has dated. Yes, she seems like, and probably is, a groupie of some sort. Some of these guys were total assholes and most of these relationships were dysfunctional or very superficial.

Well, let's all hold our breath, because the current guy seems pretty good. They have been seeing each other since October and for the first time, someone is holding her accountable. He is encouraging her to get work, she had removed several of her piercings, removed all her revealing photos from FB and has even talked about getting some of those tattoos removed. She seems to want to be a better person with him, and he seems to want her to be a better person.

He could easily move her in with him and support him - his last signed contract was for 22million+ - but he doesn't. He says that unless they are engaged or married they can't live together. Instead of getting her a place to stay, he is trying to find her a job in the city in which he plays. He doesn't want some trophy, but rather a partner that is her own person, and so far I like that.

So, since October, J has kind of been living here too. She stays here a few days and then runs to Jo for a few days. She has been more mature and helpful this time. I've made it clear to her that I will not tolerate drama or childish behavior and so far so good. I think this is the longest we've gotten along, never mind her actually staying here. It's not been prefect of course, but I see a lot of growth and maturity in her that wasn't there before.

I hope this continues. Even in the relationship fails, I hope my sister gains enough maturity and self esteem so that she doesn't return to the childish games, the half naked photos and the jumping from guy to guy. For the first time in a long time I see some promise and potential in her.

And...just to leave you hanging...my next post will be about the BAZAAR behavior my mother has been exhibiting since J started dating Jo. At this point, I swear, if it doesn't quit, she will be the reason for the relationship failure.