Just a reminder that there is currently a Scentsy Sale going on to benefit Tammy and her journey through adoption. If you are interested in purchasing this month, please use the link below and 20% off all sales will go to Tammy and Mark.
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And to read about her long journey, click Here
Showing posts with label Adoption. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Adoption. Show all posts
Monday, July 18, 2011
Saturday, June 25, 2011
Adoption Fundraiser
Several years ago when I 'entered' the world of donor conception, I 'met' a wonderful couple. They were just starting out their journey when the twins were several months old. T is a wonderfully optimistic woman who has been everyone's cheerleader and support. She has been an amazing presence within that group of women and I don't think there is anyone who hasn't been touched by her.
Unfortunately, her journey still hasn't come to an end. Despite many, many attempts, T and her Hubby are still without child. After all the medical stuff, they are now turning to adoption to create their family. There is no one else in this world who deserves a child more than these people!!!
We all know how expensive adoption is, and after years of medical intervention they are reaching out for help. Since my budget is extremely limited I can not help through donation, but I have decided to give them all my commission for the month of July through my Scentsy sales.
If anyone is interested in ordering from July 1st to 31st, please use the following link to help T and M bring their baby home.
Click HERE
And if you would like to read about T and her journey, you can find her HERE
Unfortunately, her journey still hasn't come to an end. Despite many, many attempts, T and her Hubby are still without child. After all the medical stuff, they are now turning to adoption to create their family. There is no one else in this world who deserves a child more than these people!!!
We all know how expensive adoption is, and after years of medical intervention they are reaching out for help. Since my budget is extremely limited I can not help through donation, but I have decided to give them all my commission for the month of July through my Scentsy sales.
If anyone is interested in ordering from July 1st to 31st, please use the following link to help T and M bring their baby home.
Click HERE
And if you would like to read about T and her journey, you can find her HERE
Monday, January 31, 2011
I'm so Frustrated
I have been researching and looking more into different options regarding adoption. The more I look, the sadder I am. I am angry at how adoption has become a money driven business. I am angry at how many people have their hands in the pot and are trying to make money off the desperation of eager parents. I am angry, that as I look more and more into this world, the more clear it is, that adoption is becoming something that is only open to 'elite' parents. Women, men, couples who are able to pay crazy amounts of money so they may take home a child they so desperately want. It's not fair.
I am a lucky one. I want to adopt more than anything. I have always been driven to adopt. I have wanted to adopt most my life, and had my first adoption attempt worked, I may never has turned to pregnancy as a way to grow my family. But sadly, it is becoming more and more apparent that adoption is not something that is available to me. I am not wealthy, and cannot raise/save/earn enough money to pay for agencies, lawyers, birth mothers, other misc fees. I can give a child a good home with lots of love and support but that's not important. But even if adoption never works for me, I am still one of the lucky ones. I am able, and have conceived three great kids. That is much more than many other women can say.
I am angry and frustrated for myself, but more so for the couples who are infertile and cannot turn to adoption due to costs. It is horribly unfair that people who cannot get pregnant on their own, are also turned away from the possibility of adoption due to money. How is that right? How is it that we have allowed something as awesome as adoption turn into a cash cow for certain people. Why can lawyers charge many thousands of dollars to draw up contracts and paper work? Why can agencies charge huge fees just to find you a baby? Why can birth mothers ask for unreasonable financial assistance with the high risk of them changing their minds in the end?
There needs to be some major reform in adoption. We need to set maximum fees for agencies, lawyers and BM assistance. We need to change it so that couples from all walks of life, who can prove their ability to care for a child, can indeed get one. There should be no one who is kept from the joy, reward, love (and of course chaos) of parenting just because they can't afford it. Adoption just has to change....not for me...but for the childless couples who have no other alternatives
but if I benefit from it too, well that would be nice
I am a lucky one. I want to adopt more than anything. I have always been driven to adopt. I have wanted to adopt most my life, and had my first adoption attempt worked, I may never has turned to pregnancy as a way to grow my family. But sadly, it is becoming more and more apparent that adoption is not something that is available to me. I am not wealthy, and cannot raise/save/earn enough money to pay for agencies, lawyers, birth mothers, other misc fees. I can give a child a good home with lots of love and support but that's not important. But even if adoption never works for me, I am still one of the lucky ones. I am able, and have conceived three great kids. That is much more than many other women can say.
I am angry and frustrated for myself, but more so for the couples who are infertile and cannot turn to adoption due to costs. It is horribly unfair that people who cannot get pregnant on their own, are also turned away from the possibility of adoption due to money. How is that right? How is it that we have allowed something as awesome as adoption turn into a cash cow for certain people. Why can lawyers charge many thousands of dollars to draw up contracts and paper work? Why can agencies charge huge fees just to find you a baby? Why can birth mothers ask for unreasonable financial assistance with the high risk of them changing their minds in the end?
There needs to be some major reform in adoption. We need to set maximum fees for agencies, lawyers and BM assistance. We need to change it so that couples from all walks of life, who can prove their ability to care for a child, can indeed get one. There should be no one who is kept from the joy, reward, love (and of course chaos) of parenting just because they can't afford it. Adoption just has to change....not for me...but for the childless couples who have no other alternatives
but if I benefit from it too, well that would be nice
Sunday, January 23, 2011
GULP...
So guess what I did today...
I took the plunge and filled out the Foster Parent Interest form and will send it off in the morning. Gulp. I am hoping that they won't turn me down. I have two concerns. First being the fact that I am already the single mom to three children and the second being that we didn't leave on such good terms about 6 years ago.
This is the same agency that screwed me over, and removed my son Zach from my care, turned him over to his dysfunctional parents who then gave him away to someone else. DSS never blinked an eye. Six years ago maybe enough time for them to have forgiven the anger and resentment I shared with them, or maybe not.
Part of me is very nervous. Another child. And not only just another child, but another child with all the aggravation and red tape of a foster to adopt child. Pregnancy almost seems like it would be the lesser of the evils. Maybe I should just go ahead and TTC again. With me, if history repeats, I would most likely be guaranteed a child with TTC. But then there is the thing about really wanting another daughter...which would be a total gamble. So, adoption would really be the best way to go...no repeated cycles of TTC...no 40 weeks of misery...and the ability to limit my requests to a girl.
Even if my request is processed and I can be certified, there is 10 weeks of classes, a home study, backround check, etc, etc. so this is months to a year away. A lot can happen in that time.
I really wish that someone I kind of knew was looking for a good home for their unborn daughter...that would make things so much easier and quicker...but of course nothing is ever too easy for me ;0)
I took the plunge and filled out the Foster Parent Interest form and will send it off in the morning. Gulp. I am hoping that they won't turn me down. I have two concerns. First being the fact that I am already the single mom to three children and the second being that we didn't leave on such good terms about 6 years ago.
This is the same agency that screwed me over, and removed my son Zach from my care, turned him over to his dysfunctional parents who then gave him away to someone else. DSS never blinked an eye. Six years ago maybe enough time for them to have forgiven the anger and resentment I shared with them, or maybe not.
Part of me is very nervous. Another child. And not only just another child, but another child with all the aggravation and red tape of a foster to adopt child. Pregnancy almost seems like it would be the lesser of the evils. Maybe I should just go ahead and TTC again. With me, if history repeats, I would most likely be guaranteed a child with TTC. But then there is the thing about really wanting another daughter...which would be a total gamble. So, adoption would really be the best way to go...no repeated cycles of TTC...no 40 weeks of misery...and the ability to limit my requests to a girl.
Even if my request is processed and I can be certified, there is 10 weeks of classes, a home study, backround check, etc, etc. so this is months to a year away. A lot can happen in that time.
I really wish that someone I kind of knew was looking for a good home for their unborn daughter...that would make things so much easier and quicker...but of course nothing is ever too easy for me ;0)
Friday, November 26, 2010
Adoption Fundraiser
On December 4th I will be participating in an adoption fundraiser for a friend who is trying to adopt. I'm sure many of you remember my dear friend J who suffered a major loss this past May, losing her son at 31 weeks gestation. Well, she has since started an adoption plan, and was even matched with a birth mother, however that match fell through. I will be participating in a vendor party where all vendors will be giving J their commission on all sold products.
If you are looking for any Scentsy items to give as a Christmas gift, this is a perfect time to buy. All orders are guarenteed for Christmas delivery. Please click on my 'Warmer Link' to the right if you are interested in helping. Click on Jenn's Adoption Fundraiser on my main page for your purchase to benefit her :)
Thanks!
If you are looking for any Scentsy items to give as a Christmas gift, this is a perfect time to buy. All orders are guarenteed for Christmas delivery. Please click on my 'Warmer Link' to the right if you are interested in helping. Click on Jenn's Adoption Fundraiser on my main page for your purchase to benefit her :)
Thanks!
Monday, October 18, 2010
Just a Little Plug....
I have a good friend that is currently trying to adopt a special needs boy from Russia. In Russia, once kids turn 5 they are removed from the orphanage and placed in an institution to live out their life. J is trying desperately to save one such boy.
Here is a link to her page where she is trying to raise money to bring him home. If you can, please visit.
http://adoptinginkaty.blogspot.com/
Thanks!
Here is a link to her page where she is trying to raise money to bring him home. If you can, please visit.
http://adoptinginkaty.blogspot.com/
Thanks!
Wednesday, October 13, 2010
S Really Needs to QUIT Saying That
In the last 6 to 8 weeks, S has told numerous people that I am pregnant. He tells them that I have a baby girl in my tummy. He must be pretty convincing as on Monday when I picked him up from school his teacher said "S told me your good news...you're expecting" Um...no.
I asked him why he was saying that and his response is "Cause I want a baby in your belly". I told him how he shouldn't say it any more and how he was confusing people. He seemed to understand, but today at pick up his teacher mentioned that he told someone else I was pregnant. And tonight without any prodding he said "Mommy, I really want a baby. We need a baby sister". It must be something he thinks about a lot with as much as he talks about it.
He has been an awesome big brother and I'm sure he really does want a sister, but of course there is so much more to consider. At least I know that if I decide to adopt next year he will be on board.
I asked him why he was saying that and his response is "Cause I want a baby in your belly". I told him how he shouldn't say it any more and how he was confusing people. He seemed to understand, but today at pick up his teacher mentioned that he told someone else I was pregnant. And tonight without any prodding he said "Mommy, I really want a baby. We need a baby sister". It must be something he thinks about a lot with as much as he talks about it.
He has been an awesome big brother and I'm sure he really does want a sister, but of course there is so much more to consider. At least I know that if I decide to adopt next year he will be on board.
Tuesday, September 21, 2010
Still Undecided
My mind daily waivers back and forth on whether or not to pursue an adoption to add baby #4 to the mix. If I go with my heart, I am 100% on board with having another. I love being a mother more than anything and I have always wanted four children.
My mind is not so sure. I DO NOT want to be pregnant. I don't do pregnancy very well. I am tired, sick and miserable and it just wouldn't be fair to subject the twins to that again, as well as Max with him being so young. I do want to adopt. I have always wanted to adopt, in fact, it was never important to me to have biological children in the beginning. I started my journey with adoption and had it been successful, may have never turned to TTC.
There are a few considerations to adoption. I cannot afford the high costs of international and domestic adoption. Add to that, that many international locations are closed to singles, and that a birth mom probably wouldn't chose a single mom household with three children already, so my choices are pretty limited. The route that would most likely work would be foster to adopt, but there is just soooooo much risk in it.
This is the program in which I lost my Zach. One week before parental termination would start, his parents removed him from me and gave him to someone else. This could happen again. Many other things could happen. I don't know if I can emotionally handle it, or if it would be fair to subject the twins to that.
I tell myself that this time I wouldn't be so 'desperate' because I have children now. I am no longer dependant on them to become a mom. I would be very clear with what I wanted and while it might take longer for a placement, maybe once I get a placement they will stay.
I literally go back an forth daily.
Add to that, right now I have at least 4 friends actively pursuing adoption. I read and listen to their stories and I am envious that I can't be in the process with them. Two of these friends were unable to have children of their own and would probably be shocked to know that I am a little jealous of them right now.
I need to come up with a plan. If I do have another child I want him/her to be close in age to Max. I know the county is starting the required classes again in January and I'm thinking I need to make my decision by then. Either I jump in feet first and start the process, or decide that my family is done growing and stop focusing on the possibility of a fourth.
So...3 months. That's how long I have to make my decision. This should be interesting...
My mind is not so sure. I DO NOT want to be pregnant. I don't do pregnancy very well. I am tired, sick and miserable and it just wouldn't be fair to subject the twins to that again, as well as Max with him being so young. I do want to adopt. I have always wanted to adopt, in fact, it was never important to me to have biological children in the beginning. I started my journey with adoption and had it been successful, may have never turned to TTC.
There are a few considerations to adoption. I cannot afford the high costs of international and domestic adoption. Add to that, that many international locations are closed to singles, and that a birth mom probably wouldn't chose a single mom household with three children already, so my choices are pretty limited. The route that would most likely work would be foster to adopt, but there is just soooooo much risk in it.
This is the program in which I lost my Zach. One week before parental termination would start, his parents removed him from me and gave him to someone else. This could happen again. Many other things could happen. I don't know if I can emotionally handle it, or if it would be fair to subject the twins to that.
I tell myself that this time I wouldn't be so 'desperate' because I have children now. I am no longer dependant on them to become a mom. I would be very clear with what I wanted and while it might take longer for a placement, maybe once I get a placement they will stay.
I literally go back an forth daily.
Add to that, right now I have at least 4 friends actively pursuing adoption. I read and listen to their stories and I am envious that I can't be in the process with them. Two of these friends were unable to have children of their own and would probably be shocked to know that I am a little jealous of them right now.
I need to come up with a plan. If I do have another child I want him/her to be close in age to Max. I know the county is starting the required classes again in January and I'm thinking I need to make my decision by then. Either I jump in feet first and start the process, or decide that my family is done growing and stop focusing on the possibility of a fourth.
So...3 months. That's how long I have to make my decision. This should be interesting...
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