Stupid Women and the Men who Love Them

Okay, this will be my last social commentary post. At least for now :0)

On Monday I had two single mom friends come to me for support. One is pregnant and the other was afraid that she was. I think they came to me for sympathy...but as mean as it sounds...I had none.

The first one, D, was over a week late on her cycle and was terrified that she was pregnant. She admitted to having unprotected sex about 2 weeks prior when she would have been ovulating. Seriously. You knowingly have unprotected sex with a casual boyfriend and then you come to me for sympathy that you may be pregnant and how horrible that would be? WTF is wrong with this picture. I know I sound like a total bitch right now, and in some ways I am, but it really irritates me when women knowingly put themselves in vulnerable positions, and then when the worse happens, it's the most horrible thing in the world and expect nothing but support and sympathy from others. D is not dumb. She is an educated professional with one son. She is estranged from that sons father and actually had his right terminated. She should know better.

The second woman is even worse. C has one daughter. Normally C is a 'player'. Commonly dates multiple men at one time, many times being intimate with many of them, and always acts like she's the one in control. Well she did recently decide she liked one guy more than the others and decided to be monogamous with him. Several months ago however, she broke it off and moved. When she moved, he immediately reconnected with an old GF and moved in with her. Well during one of C's visits back home she hooked up with him...unprotected of course...and when she returned home found out she was pregnant. She has now moved back and is trying to make it work with him. He however, is still talking to the GF he re-connected with and going back and forth with her.

C is ok with this, because she did move away. She is going to try and make it work, but she would really like it if he would stop talking to his ex-GF. She likes to blame him for what an ass he is and how horrible her life has become because when she moved back she's now jobless and is dependant on him. And here's the kicker. She is pregnant with twins. So again, I get approached for the sympathy and woe is me card. Um...sorry. You are dumb enough to have unprotected sex with a man who has shown no commitment to you, and then make it worse when you do get pregnant by giving up your life and moving back to him, when he is treating you like crap and still talking to other women...um...nope. Grow a spine and tell him to shape up or ship out!

The reason the situations bother me so much, is they are the stereotypical single mom. People look at them and see single moms as a whole. They represent women in general very poorly as women who don't respect themselves enough to care. They allow themselves to be vulnerable and ultimately dependent on men who see them as items and sex opportunities rather than an equal partner. They have children with these men resulting in a lifetime bond with someone with which you have a dysfunctional relationship. They create drama, chaos and a future generation who is raised within this craziness.

Don't come to me for sympathy. You made your bed...now lie in it.